Columnist looks for "Mr. Right Now" rather than"Mr. Right"
Anne Rebar
Issue date: 8/22/09 Section: TruLife
I spent all summer trying to figure out some topic I could write about for my column. It's now less than 24 hours before deadline, and I'm finally typing. Story of my life.
I began racking my brain. As I recalled previous Index columns that I had enjoyed, "Sex and the 'Ville" immediately popped into my mind.
Relationships and dating are an integral part of the college experience - from the freshmen, who are just realizing the excitement of having a whole new dating pool, to the seniors, whose imminent (and in my opinion all too quickly approaching) graduation might force them to have to have the "What's the next step?" conversation with their significant others. Thus, I decided to revive the old favorite. Here's to hoping it lives up to the original.
As my final year of college begins, I find myself thinking ahead to my future, which frankly is looking like a big ominous black blob of uncertainty. College is a place we come to learn things that hopefully will prepare us for a successful and happy future. We study for tests so we will get good grades. We join clubs and volunteer all the while thinking about how they might look on our future résumés. We date in hopes of (possibly) finding someone who might want to stick around for the great big future life we imagine.
Future, future, future, future. I'm really getting sick of thinking about it.
Therefore, as sort of a "new school year's resolution" I've decided to cut out some of this tiresome future thinking in my life, in hopes of reducing the big ominous black blob to something at least resembling a grey and hazy fog.
Although I realize this resolution will not be practical for all aspects of my life - I still have to study for those tests and think about those future jobs or grad schools to look for, there is one future aspect I can do without - relationships.
To be clear, I in no way intend to cut out boys from my life entirely. Instead, when I find someone who strikes my fancy I intend to take things one day at a time and not think ahead to whether he fits into my ultimate plans of traveling the world, or if my parents would like him, or if our religious and political views are compatible.
My new approach to dating will be to have fun. I will drop the cliché idea of looking for Mr. Right and go for more of a Mr. Right Now (who I've heard is much easier to find).
Without having to think about if my relationship will last past graduation and whether I should look at jobs near where he wants to live (just in case), I will have more brain power to focus on those other, more important and practical future factors, such as studying for those tests and learning those oh-so-important lessons that will help me when I graduate and start out on my great future adventures in the "real world."
Of course, some of this extra brain power will also be spent on more "right now" thinking. I will focus more on enjoying my last moments of college with my good friends and maybe even a suitable "right now" boy.
And who knows. Maybe someone special will come along.
I began racking my brain. As I recalled previous Index columns that I had enjoyed, "Sex and the 'Ville" immediately popped into my mind.
Relationships and dating are an integral part of the college experience - from the freshmen, who are just realizing the excitement of having a whole new dating pool, to the seniors, whose imminent (and in my opinion all too quickly approaching) graduation might force them to have to have the "What's the next step?" conversation with their significant others. Thus, I decided to revive the old favorite. Here's to hoping it lives up to the original.
As my final year of college begins, I find myself thinking ahead to my future, which frankly is looking like a big ominous black blob of uncertainty. College is a place we come to learn things that hopefully will prepare us for a successful and happy future. We study for tests so we will get good grades. We join clubs and volunteer all the while thinking about how they might look on our future résumés. We date in hopes of (possibly) finding someone who might want to stick around for the great big future life we imagine.
Future, future, future, future. I'm really getting sick of thinking about it.
Therefore, as sort of a "new school year's resolution" I've decided to cut out some of this tiresome future thinking in my life, in hopes of reducing the big ominous black blob to something at least resembling a grey and hazy fog.
Although I realize this resolution will not be practical for all aspects of my life - I still have to study for those tests and think about those future jobs or grad schools to look for, there is one future aspect I can do without - relationships.
To be clear, I in no way intend to cut out boys from my life entirely. Instead, when I find someone who strikes my fancy I intend to take things one day at a time and not think ahead to whether he fits into my ultimate plans of traveling the world, or if my parents would like him, or if our religious and political views are compatible.
My new approach to dating will be to have fun. I will drop the cliché idea of looking for Mr. Right and go for more of a Mr. Right Now (who I've heard is much easier to find).
Without having to think about if my relationship will last past graduation and whether I should look at jobs near where he wants to live (just in case), I will have more brain power to focus on those other, more important and practical future factors, such as studying for those tests and learning those oh-so-important lessons that will help me when I graduate and start out on my great future adventures in the "real world."
Of course, some of this extra brain power will also be spent on more "right now" thinking. I will focus more on enjoying my last moments of college with my good friends and maybe even a suitable "right now" boy.
And who knows. Maybe someone special will come along.
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