Bad boys attract girls with risk, danger
Commentary
Anne Rebar
Issue date: 11/12/09 Section: TruLife
Relationship expert and author Lisa Daily wrote in her online column on Romantics.net that one reason women are so attracted to these men is because deep down they hold the ill-conceived notion that they might be the ones who can turn the guy around. The chances of this happening, however, are about as good as the Rams' chances of winning the Super Bowl - a.k.a. none.
Daily writes that another reason is that some women just enjoy doing things they know could be bad for them because things that involve some kind of risk are exciting. Women date "bad boys" for the same reason people ride motorcycles and go bungee jumping. The possibility of getting hurt makes the brief encounter that much more thrilling.
Dating "bad boys" is like a professional sport. Women do it when they are young, but eventually stop after a certain age. Daily writes that as women grow older and want more committed and long-term relationships, they tend to grow out of their "bad boy" fetishes and go for the men they can see themselves with in a long-term sense.
So, while we still might be - OK, we most definitely will be - admiring men like Colin Farrell from afar, realistically, you nice boys will finish first in the end.
Daily writes that another reason is that some women just enjoy doing things they know could be bad for them because things that involve some kind of risk are exciting. Women date "bad boys" for the same reason people ride motorcycles and go bungee jumping. The possibility of getting hurt makes the brief encounter that much more thrilling.
Dating "bad boys" is like a professional sport. Women do it when they are young, but eventually stop after a certain age. Daily writes that as women grow older and want more committed and long-term relationships, they tend to grow out of their "bad boy" fetishes and go for the men they can see themselves with in a long-term sense.
So, while we still might be - OK, we most definitely will be - admiring men like Colin Farrell from afar, realistically, you nice boys will finish first in the end.
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C.
posted 11/12/09 @ 10:42 AM CST
I think it's interesting you included James Dean in your opening. The true nature of his sexual orientation has been debated by many of his colleagues and biographers, and the consensus seems to be if he weren't exclusively homosexual, he certainly did experiment with men on some level or another. (Continued…)
Robert
posted 11/13/09 @ 5:39 PM CST
I think the "bad boys" notion may be true, but misunderstood. I suspect that there is a natural attraction (by women) to men who are "alpha males". That is, men who have strength, who are not "followers", etc. (Continued…)
Attract Men
posted 2/21/10 @ 10:45 PM CST
I agree, the bad boys thing really works. Women love it when men are assholes and pretty much the macho man out there.
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